“Marriage - Or Else”
Rod Nordland & Alissa J. Rubin
Kabal, Afghanistan
Upfront Magazine, January 31, 2011
I have taken the liberty to provide some questions for thought.
1. Look at the marriage chart on page 3 of your article. What do the countries listed have in common with Afghanistan?
2. How might women’s rights and early marriage be related?
3. What does the article indicate about the traditional roles of men and women in Afghan society? Why do you think those roles are still so deeply entrenched in parts of the country?
4. What rules did the Taliban impose on women? Why do you think they did this?
5. Why do tribes still exert so much control over Afghan life? How might this affect the nation’s stability, its economy, and its future?
6. How does life for a teenage girl in Afghanistan differ from that of an American teenager? Are there any similarities?
7. Forty-three percent of women in Afghanistan marry before age 18, compared with less than 1 percent in the U.S. What do you think some of the reasons may be for this vast difference?
8. Does the U.S. have a responsibility now to safeguard women’s rights in Afghanistan?
Many Afgan girls are forced to marry before they even turn 18. In america, the marraige percent before 18 is 0.3 for girl while Afgan Girls are 43 percent. Many reasons for this is because in Afganastand the womens rights,like many countries, are very limited. They are not allowed to make decesion on their own. Just about every girl in America choses thier husband, but not for middle east countires. Your marrage is choosen for you.
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Deleteim 100% on your side good job j-rowe
DeleteI'm completely agree with you, J-Hejl, as well as you, J-Rowe.
DeleteWell said Justin! Took the words right out of my mouth.
DeleteIn the article Marriage or Else, women in Afghanistan don't have that many, if any rights. Women are practically bought and sold, like cattle. The husband pays the parents, and since Afghanistan is a developing country, that has a low GDP, and high poverty level, the parents take the money and just see it as one less mouth to feed. And if the women runs away and are caught they can be punished by public beatings, mutilation or even worse.
ReplyDeleteThey have shelters for women, which is called "Women for Afghan Women" (WAW). This organization takes in women who runaway and don't want to get married. But out of all of this women in Islamic countries aren't treated equal and with hardly any respect in any way, plus the law in Afghanistan really doesn't care if women are stoned or brutally beaten to death.
But it was somewhat the same, but not as extreme in the U.S.A about of 100 years ago. Women weren't allowed to vote or really work, because men didn't see them ass equal too. And still now in the 21st century women don't get treated right in politics or work.
I believe this is wrong and messed up and all women and men should be treated the same in both countries. I also believe women in Afghanistan and any other Islamic country which displays this type of behavior towards women, should be able to marry whom they want, and they should also have women's rights. God wouldn't want this happening would he?
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DeleteI agree with you that women are very unequal with men we think that we are treating them equally but, in reality women are no where close to being as "powerful" as the man.
Deletewatch your typing Brandon. Re-read your post - slowly!
DeleteIn Afghanistan the women get married at very young ages compared to women in America. There are many reasons why these girls can get forced into marriages as young as eight. The countries with the highest percent of young women getting married are all undeveloped countries, and the families can make money to survive by sending their daughters off to marry at young ages. Women don’t have as many rights as women in the U.S. do. They are very much controlled by the men in their house and by disobeying them they get punished. This is very much part of their culture, so we may not understand it at all, but you have to put yourself in their shoes and try to think about all the hard choices they have to make that you may not.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you Natalie. The standards that are set for young women in Afghanistan are by all means, NOT RIGHT, but we are on a totally different page than they are and we see it as completely and utterly WRONG! Yet the people in Afghanistan are used to the rules and standards and they see it as something normal, so it makes it that much harder to understand why they feel that way because we aren't in their position.
DeleteAs females, we have got to be hopeful, now that there are some ladies that are trying to resist this practice. Change is difficult in any country. Look at the changes that has taken place in the U.S. over the last 100+ years. If they continue to strive for change, then maybe one day in the future, many other young ladies will reap the benefit of the struggle they are enduring now.
DeleteGood job Natalie!
The women of Afghanistan have little to no rights disregarding who they get to marry. Basically, if you were a women in Afghanistan and a man came up to you and said you will marry me or die, you would have to abide by this or face death. In America, women are not subjected to abided by the mans request of marriage with the help of the parents. I personally think that how women are treated in Afghanistan are inhumanly treated like slaves for marriage.
ReplyDeleteI think that the girls being forced into marriage is pretty nasty. They also have no rights what so ever and the percentage of the girls that get forced into a marriage before the age of eighteen is forty-three percent of girls in Afghanistan.
ReplyDeleteJesse, I have read your posts and you are not writing in depth, discussing a new point. You are being repetitive. I gave you all quite a few questions that you can write about. Work to improve your blog entries!
DeleteIm surprised that girls that are 8 years old are being forced to marry someone when they don't even know what marriage or love is. They don't even know what its like to like someone at that young of an age let alone get married. Its just dumb how these kind of things happen in this world. I don't know what these men are thinking about getting out of marrying girls at that young of an age.
ReplyDeleteAnother thing that really stood out to me when I read this is that when they are younger they are at a higher risk of the domestic violence and HIV. Plus the ones who get pregnant under 15 is way more likely to die during child birth. Then they suffer from psychological problems because they have not been with their family long enough. Forced to basically be a slave to older men who could be their father. I mean just the thought of being married at 8 to someone I don't know and is as old as my father is disturbing to me.
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DeleteIt is wrong that a girl's spouse is chosen for them and especially at a young age. Having a spouse chosen for you sets you up for the rest of your life. If your not happy with someone else's choice for you, there's no way out. I think it's wrong for a girl to first off be placed in a relationship at a young age and also not be able to leave. If you even try to leave you can be publicly beaten, arrested or killed. I think eveveryone should have a choice in their spouse and be able to leave if it was not working.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan women even girls are unwillingly forced against their rights to marry boys that they might not like.It is wrong that they do this but if this is what they want we can't stop them.It is also wrong that Sumbol(A 17 year old girl)had to either marry her husband or she would be a suicide bomber. They got a wierd way of doing things in foreign countries and I imagine that they think we have a wierd way of doing things.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that they allow this to happen, when they KNOW that at least the girls married before the age of 15 are more prone to HIV or are more likely to die during childbirth, blows my mind. I understand that it is part of their culture to arrange marriages, and maybe even at a younger age, but 8 years old? Sometimes it can turn intensely violent, with beatings or like we saw in the article, noses being cut off or even worse. What's really awful is that the parents approve, and it is, can be (depending on the circumstance) murder. I believe that every country has a right to follow its own culture, but these consequences are too extreme.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan, children as young as eight are forced to marry older men. Sometimes these young girls are forced to marry in order to pay off a debt that the father owes the other family. Girls from poor families are twice as likely to be married off as children, to pay off debts. Child brides are also more likely to get HIV, causing AIDS. These young brides are also often frequently beaten, which just makes being forced to marry even worse.
ReplyDeleteThe thing that bothers me the most is how fathers give their daughters away as young as 8 just so the debt that they owe will be paid off. Girls that are forced to get married to an older man are used as a slave basically. Sometimes everyone in the family will use her and if she does something so little to make them mad she'll get beaten. So many of the girls also get pregnant at such a young age. Some girls have died from just getting beaten.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan girls as young as 8 years old are forced into marriage with older men. The parents see it as one less outfit to purchase and one less plate to create. 43 percent of of girls under 18 are chosen to get married. In my point of view i find it rather irritating reading that these young women get beaten, stoned to death, and flogged if they try to escape or refuse to marry. A lot of these young girls die from birthrate, a small delicate body having to go through the stages of birth, at such a young age.
ReplyDeleteYoung girls should not be forced into marriage.Some of the reasons these young girls are being forced into this are that they will be forced to become a suicide bomber if they refuse to marry, the family sells the girl off to a man to pay off debts, or even just so they have one less mouth to feed. The effects of this can be public beatings or mutilation if they try to return to their families and old life. They need to change their government and give women more rights in their country. It is really sad how the families just this to their daughters even if it is their culture.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan, children as young as eight are forced to marry older men. Sometimes these young girls are forced to marry in order to pay off a debt that the father owes the other family. Girls from poor families are twice as likely to be married off as children, to pay off debts. Child brides are also more likely to get HIV, causing AIDS. These young brides are also often frequently beaten, which just makes being forced to marry even worse.
ReplyDeleteWhy are you posted your responses multiple times!!!
DeleteIn Afghanistan, children as young as eight are forced to marry older men. Sometimes these young girls are forced to marry in order to pay off a debt that the father owes the other family. Girls from poor families are twice as likely to be married off as children, to pay off debts. Child brides are also more likely to get HIV, causing AIDS. These young brides are also often frequently beaten, which just makes being forced to marry even worse.
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ReplyDeleteThe nation of Afghanistan forces young females to marry much older guys. Sometimes they force them to be married at the age of 8years old. The percentage of females married at the age of under 18 in Afghanistan its 43%, in America its 0.3%. The females that live in area can't do anything about it because the females have no rights. These are some of the following rights they have to obay in Afghanistan.
Women and girls are forbidden to go to school or work outside of the home.
Women and girls may not leave their homes without a male relative.
Women are forced to wear a head-to-toe covering called a "burqa" with only a small mesh opening through which to breathe and see.
Women have been beaten and killed for not being properly covered or escorted.
The windows of homes occupied by women must be painted to prevent women from being seen.
Health care for Afghan women and girls is virtually non-existent since male doctors may not care for female patients.
Women are forbidden from speaking in public.
Pubescent girls and women are prohibited from speaking to males who are not close relatives.
Due to these rights and abuse women in Afghanistan try to run away and leave because they have been treated harshly. If a female is found they do harsh things People in the area or police can't help the women being beat and abused because of the laws they must obay. If a female must run away and ended up found they would cut a toe or cut your nose or any body part of yours so no man would wanna date or marrie you. They do those harsh things to females for disobaying the rules, your family, and the nation of Afghanistan.
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Young girls in the Middle East are being forced into marriage as early as the age of eight years old. Many familys see sending their daughters of to be married as a business transaction. Most familys that see it as this way are usualy in dept to the sons family oor they want their daughters to be married instead of going to school. A lot of the girls that are forced into marriage try to run away from her arranged husban or try to escape by any means nessary. If the girls are caught their husbans usualy beat theim or disfigure theim. I think that if the girls are going to be forced into marriage they should atleast be aloud to choose out of mutible men. If the familys get their daughters to pay of their dept in this fashion is wrong. The Middle East is sapost to be religios but most of the mens actions are just the opposite of their beliefs.
ReplyDeleteIn the Middle East girls as young as eight are being for into marriage. For me this is a difficult concept to understand. Women, excuse me, girls are used for money. If you owe debt to a man your daughter is what is used to pay it. Often when these young girls are sold, and married off they find themselves being beaten, acting as a servant, or in some scenarios sex slaves. This isn't just a small group of people it is quiet the social norm seeing as that 43% of girls under the age of 18 are married. These poor girls can't do anything about it because they have no rights. They can't go anywhere without male approval, they aren't allowed education, men rule where they are. This means you have to listen to them. Yes, girls do try and escape their fates, but this usually ends with and unhappy ending. If caught the girls can be punished with public beatings, mutilation, and even execution. Though it has tiny bit by tiny bit been improving life in the Middle East for young girls, and women alike is difficult.
ReplyDeleteFor what it's worth, I think that in Afghanistan it is socially acceptable to mary girls at age 8. Of course I don't think it's right because I grew up here in the United States, but over there in Afghanistan, the theocratic government has complete control over the law, and the citizens there have grown up in a society where it's acceptable. It may not be acceptable here, but in Afghanistan, nobody questions the law because it's their religion, their tradition, and their heritage, taught to children by their parents.
ReplyDeleteMarriage at eight? What a joke! I can guarantee a girl of such an age, has no interest what so ever in "Men". Its not right on so many levels. I just do not even see the point of such abuse and cruelty to a girl. It really disgusts me. I find it very sexist and unfair, for a girl to be FORCED to marry a male she could possibly not even know! Just thinking of it makes me sick, what does a man want from a little girl? I mean, isn't the whole point in marriage about love till death!?... I am pretty sure it's not just for the fact that a male has a much younger girl who will still look young once he turns one hundred years of age! But it honestly just depends on your culture. I do not understand the reasoning for it, but thats just because i have always lived in the United States! I am sure that if I grew up in Iran, then I sure would! Its all bias, thats why i believe that it is wrong. But like I said, if i lived in Iran, I would have no reason to disagree, its just how life is up there.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. Girls at the age of 8 are most likely to be interested in doing kids stuff, and the last thing that comes to their mind would be marriage. Being forced to marry an older man sounds scary. Who would want to? They should have the right to pick who to marry and at what age. And yes its all bias, we think different as they do. But I sure will not like to live there either.
DeleteImagine being told that you an 8-year-old girl is going to marry a man five times your age! This happpens to thousands of girls in Afghanistan. Fathers are bribed by the money they could make by selling their daughters! Girls try to escape, but where do they run too? The police does not help them, and everyone opposes them. Many girls are slaves to their new "Husband" who make them do chroes and sometimes even beat them for no reason at all. Not only is this very currupt it is also very dangerous. These young girls are forced to go through labor! Can you imagine a 13-year-old going through a live birth!? Most of them do not survive because their bodies are not fully developed. All of this seems totally currupt and unfair but, imagine if you lived in Afghanistan, this is their way of life and they have no choice but to follow it or die.
ReplyDeleteSome of these girls are getting married to men at ages as young as eight.Eight year old girls married to GROWN MEN. That is disgusting in so many ways, and need I say it's just creepy. How would you feel if your family forced you into a marriage with someone the age of your father before you were even old enough to truly understand what marriage is? The families don't even take into consideration the rest of the daughter's lives and their happiness.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan, young girls are forcibly being married off at ages as young as 8. Those who refuse are beaten publicly, disfigured, and in extreme cases, killed. Even the ones who "get away" don't necessarily do so. After all, where could they go at such a young age? As read in the article, the police would just send them back to their families, and their families would send them straight back to their husbands where severe punishment awaited. Although we biased Americans see this as nauseating, cruel, and unfair, it's simply a way of life in many developing countries. Fortunately, there is hope for these unfortunate girls, as organizations such as the ICRW and Women for Afghan Women (WAW) are fighting to put a stop to these acts.
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I think the age of the girls that are being forced into mariages has a major role in it. Being so young they probrably feel to helpless to resist, because if they do they get publicaly humiliated and tortured. Plus they cant run back to their family, because they were the ones who sent them there in the first place! So what much of a diffrence can a girl as young as 8 years old do to a grown man and their own family? Sure, there are some organizations out there that can help these girls, but not very many. But at least there's some hope for these young women.
ReplyDeleteFor these girls, young marriage is an end to the education they wanted to have. It is selfish of their fathers to want them married young for money. The government of Afghanistan must stop this because it leads to various forms of violence if the girls don't go forth with it.
ReplyDeleteWhat if the father is just thinking of their family? What if he does not care of the money but the benefits for his family? You say it’s selfish of them, but do you think of it from their perspective? The government of Afghanistan can’t do anything because the religious reasons rule over them.
DeleteWomen in Afghanistan have little to no rights at all. They are so inferior to the men. I believe that taking away a woman's rights ties into early marriage. If a young girl who's about eight years old is married off then of course for her family it's one less mouth to feed, a way to pay off debt, and all around less money to spend. But while they're sending her off to be a servant for her future husband's family, she probably has no clue that she's losing all the rights that she has as a child. I'm sure a girl at any age would never want to be a servant for someone they don't even want to be with. It's sad to think that her parents pretty much forced her out of her rights. Now she can't do really anything. She has no right to education, the feeling of being safe, or even a childhood. These girls are pretty much robbed of everything they have at a young age because their parents wanted to pay off a debt, save money, or they thought they would keep her safe.
ReplyDeleteWhether or not it is America's responsibility to protect Afghanistan's women is a very good question. Some people say that it is our responsibility to help these mistreated women because of all of our blessings here in America. We know that that these traditions, as bad as they are, have been around for thousands of years, and would be very hard to change. Also, there is injustice all over the world. Is it our job to right every wrong? I personally feel that we should be careful before we go and change their way of life, but I think that we should completely support places like Women for Afghan Women.
ReplyDeleteEight to twelve, this is the age when most of the young girls in Saudi Arabia are forced to marry grown men. This is obsured and very gross. Most of these girls aren't wed just to make there parents happy, they are wed to pay off their families debts or anything owed. This mistreats women so much that it is disturbing and even though it is there traditions. But their taditions need to change.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan, it is common for girls as young as eight years of age to be forced into marriage. If they disobey or try to escape it will backlash on them with violence. Although many think this is wrong, you have to stop and think about it from their perspective. I don't agree with them, but I can see why they do it. As Ashes’ father says, "I only wanted to try to have a good relation with their family despite their bad behavior, so I sent her back to them." How could he have known the will chop her nose and ears off? Furthermore he says, "I regret what I did, sending her back."
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan, the rights of women have been extremely limited by the radical Islam group, the Taliban. As the years have gone by, and the Taliban have gained more control over Afghanistan, women have been losing more and more rights. But why? Why does the Taliban want women to have so few rights? The answer is simple, the Taliban feel that the more they limit the women, the fewer people there are to oppose them. They are afraid that, with the help of the women, the people may lead an uprising. Also, the Taliban follow, and sometimes twist, the Koran and make rules and laws based on it. The leaders of the Taliban force their radical Islamic views based on their opinions and not the actual Koran. The Taliban believes that a wife is supposed to be submissive to the husband, so they force them into marriage and forbid them from leaving.
ReplyDeleteThe Taliban have been limiting the lives and rights of women, either out of fear, or a twisted view of Islam.
Women in the Middle East are often abused. They have to adhere to strict guidlines, such as wearing burqas, having to have a man's permission to do almost anything outside the house, etc. Many girls are married when they are under eighteen and some die due to their bodies not being able to handle childbearth, and the increased risk of HIV.
ReplyDeleteI do not think we have a responsibility to help them directly, but I do think that we should support groups that are trying to help them like the International Center for Research on Women and the Women for Afghan Women. They have lived like this hundreds of years and to some it is acceptable. To others who do not want this, or do not want to get married early there should be a alternative. I think we should create/support groups to help, but not directly interfere. International awarness through facebook and other media is helping to raise global awarness of this plight and therefore helping the women of Afghanistan.
In many parts of Afghanistan, girls are forced into marriage as early as the age of eight. Girls that come from a
ReplyDeletepoor household are twice as likely to marry at a young age. This practice has awful consequences. Young brides are more likely to die in child birth, they are at a higher risk for contracting HIV and they are more likely to experience domestic violence. They also suffer psychologically not only because they've been taken away from their family, friends, and school, but because they are required to serve their much older husbands.
In one case, Aisha, who was married at 12, escaped from her husband, but her father returned her. Once she had been returned her husband, father-in-law, and brother-in-law sliced off her nose and both her ears. Even though it is very uncommon for police to get involved, her outcry led them to act, and her father-in-law was later arrested.
I think that is horrible what they did to her, and I can't believe her husband and brother-in-law got away with it. I'm glad that her story drew international attention and that the arrest of her father-in-law gave young girls in Afghanistan hope that maybe their tormentors would one day be punished too.
In the Middle East girls at the youngest of age eight are forced to be married off by their parents. For your parents to give you off to some older man to marry to pay off their debt is just so disgusting. Most of the time in these marriages they have to endure abuse from their spouse and his family. When these young girls are married their rights have just flown out the window, not that they had very many anyways. They always have to be obedient to their husband and they always have to answer to him.
ReplyDeleteLife for an Afghan girl is much different from the life of an America girl. There are Afghan girls who are forced into marriage at 8 years old! Even if their culture puts men above women there should be a limit to what men can do. Most of the the girls who are forced into marriage have not even gone through puberty. After forced into marriage the girls are not allowed to go to school. No wonder 80 percent of Afghanistan women are illiterate. Less than 1 percent of American girls marry before their 18 compared to Afghanistan's 42 percent. American girls can choose to get married or not, while Afghanistan girls have no choice. After Afghan girls marry most if not all their rights are taken from them.
ReplyDeleteIn the US we have the right to marry anyone we want at the legal age. But in Afghanistan if you were to try that you might be beaten, jailed, or even killed for it. In the Middle East many daughters are married off for money to much older men, sometimes at the age of 8 years old. Women in the Middle east have very few right compared to women in America.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan young girls are forced into marriage. The parents will arrange marriages to pay off a loan or to just get money or goods. They will give the girls away at the age of 8. Truthfully I could never imagine my parents giving me away to an OLDER man just to get out of debt! Some girls will run away because they are treated more like slaves then as wives. There are groups (Women for Afghan Women) to help these young girls run away. Yet if they are caught they could be publically flogged and even sentenced to death. In one girls case her nose and ears where cut off after her own father sent her back to her husband! the things that these women must indure makes me cringe just thinking about it.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan the women or should I say young girls are forced to marry a man that could be 30 years older than them. Some girls get off kind of easy, but others like a girl named Sumbol are forced to marry by death threats, for example the guy she was forced to marry said "if you don't marry me i'll strap a bomb to your body and send you to the police station." 43 percent of women in Afghanistan will be married before the age of 18. Most women in the U.S. happily choose there husbands, but then some end up getting a divorce. I bet that any girl over in Afghanistan would love to have that option, but if they even bring that up in front of there husband they will be killed.
ReplyDeleteI agree with You for the most part Ryan, but most of the girls would be beaten, not killed if they were to bring that up in front of there husband. Also many girls in the U.S. are beaten on a daily basis by not just there horrible husband but there abusive or alcoholic parents! Just because we may never hear about it doesn't mean it doesn't happen! Really there is only two big differences between our countries, the right to pick your own spouse, and that it illegal to beat your spouse in the U.S. Afghanistan is just the opposite and if it was up to me i would throw every single little good for nothing lowlife pieces of crap husbands that beat there wives in jail and leave them there to rot forever! Then i would have all the women there taken care of by the "good men" in the U.S.!
DeleteImagine if between ages 8 and 15 you were married to a man about 30 to 40. That is what is going on in Afghanistan! Young little girls are being forced to marry older men. These girls run in fear and guess what happens then! They get punished by abuse, beating, and mutilation! Some men use threats to marry children! "He said, 'If you don't marry me, I will put a bomb on your body and send you to the police station,'" Sumbol says. But, Why? Well most people do it for money. "Poverty is usually a motivating factor, either because a husband pays a large dowry--sometimes known as a "bride-price"--to the family or because marrying off a daughter means one less mouth to feed." This is just down right wrong! Fixed marriages are wrong! People deserve to make free choices and the World should step up and help give these people the freedom every human deserves!
ReplyDeleteBeaten and battered they struggle everyday. The young girls in Afghanistan are being forced to marry men they have not even met and some of the men are old enough to be there grandfather! Now i don't know about anyone else, but thats really gross freaky and disturbing! The girls are being forced into marriage as young as eight years old! Eight years old and probably don't even have a clue about what marriage is or know whats going on! Try to imagine Your life as a wife starting at eight years old! These girls are ordered to do tasks and run errands for there much older husbands! If the girls do not listen or try to run away they face the threat of being beaten, whipped, or being brutally mutilated! I would not be able to bear the pain and cruelty that 43% of the girls in afghanistan have to face on a daily basis. These girls are extremely tough and have definitely earned my upmost respect! I know it sounds horrible what all happens to the girls, but God is putting them through all of this for a reason unknown to mankind. Whatever the reason or possibly a test he is using them to glorify his name in many ways!
ReplyDeleteTold "marry me or die", bearing a child being one your self or contracting HIV is one of the many things young girls in Afghanistan have to worry about if they are sold into marriage by their own family. 43% of females in Afghanistan are married before 18! Really no girl in America is thinking about getting married at 18. To add on to it the girls that get married are marring men that are much older than they are. Old enough to be their grandfather! If the girls try to run or say no they could be killed or publicly flogged which also could be deadly. Many girls run away trying to escape their tormentors but are ultimately return. For instance Aisha, 17 years old ran away and her husband, father in law and brother in law, allowed b the local clergymen, was disfigured and had her nose cut off. This was a very rare case because soon after the police got involved and her husband was put in prison. Although things like this happen to young girls, there are many organization out there to help the girls one such as named "Women for Afghan Women" who have helped 100's of young bride girls since 2010.
ReplyDeleteThe child marriage rate in afghanistan is very high for young girls in Afghanistan. These rates are very similar in other undeveloped countries. The percentage of girls getting married is much higher than the percentage of young boys getting married. This has a lot to to do with the lack of rights women have in these countries. In Afghanistan one of the rights they do not have to choose who you marry. In Afghanistan the men are the ones who make the decisions and are suppose to provide for their family. I think that it is this way in Afghanistan because it is tradition and tradition is very important to muslims. Not following tradition would be seen as disrespect. Along with child marriage women and girls had to be covered head to toe and young girls could not go to school, this was the result of the Taliban. Aisha's story shocks me. I don't believe that her father would send her back after she went through so many obstacles to escape. I was appalled that a muslim clergyman approved of her nose being sliced off. I have no idea how a "religious man" could do that to a young girl.
ReplyDeleteIn Afghanistan women basically have no rights. It's completely awful! They are assigned marriage partners at ages as young as 8 years old. Eight year olds are way to young to be thinking about getting married. They are still kids, and if they try to run away from the marriage then they will get beaten by family. One girl even got her nose cut off by her husband and father in law. I feel really bad for the women of Afghanistan, they deserve better!
ReplyDeleteI agree with holt in how they deserve better. Every girl deserves to be swept off their feet by a nice man not by and old man how beats then and sometimes even cuts off peoples noses. That is so wrong what these men can do to them and nobody does anything to stop them. Their familys even send them back just so they can get money. They deserve so much better.
DeleteThere are 49 countries in the world that have forced marriage. Forced marriage is simply a disregard of basic human rights. I think it's a form of domestic violence and child abuse that contributes to society’s problems. Most girls are married between ages of 7 to 11. Which means it's rare that a girl reaches the young age of 16 and is not married. The customs in traditions and communities they live in make it impossible for girls to break away from forced marriages. Men even pay for marriage to young girls. Worse, some sisters are married to pay for crimes their brothers committed by marrying the victim. Culture should not dictate when to marry a girl and not allow here to have a say. Women’s human rights should not be violated in such a manner. Just their existence should place them beyond this unfair lifestyle. This is where I draw the line.
ReplyDeleteThe girls in Afghanistan as young as eight are being forced to marriage. A major cause is that women in this area have none, to hardly any rights. A major right they do not have is the right to marry whoever they want. The effect of the young marriages are that all of the girls had a form of punishment from their husbands for leaving. To hit your wife in America is crazy where in Afghanistan and other developing countries around it are common.
ReplyDeletein marriage or else being married before your 18th birthday is common. The girls who get pregent well half of them dont make it through childbirth and the ones who run away are punished. I think that its stupied to make your kids get married at such a young age for money or to pay debts and then help them get killed or publicaly hummilated
ReplyDeleteI think this is so wrong. Womens rights and early marriage i feel like in this situation have a lot in common. They both have dont really get to have rights to make their own chioces and to choosen who they really love instead of arranged marriages, which is not true love and thats wrong to me. Another thing is the way the familys treat these girls. If the girls leave to come back to the family the dads end them back in most cases. I cant imagiane how that could feel. Most of these women are sold to the boys for miney for their familys. Mostly because of poverty. When the girls are sold to these men who knows what will happen to them the men could beat them or even worse because they can. They treat the women like a piece of land or like a piece of trash. I disagree with goes on over there. Women should have rights and not be sold to older men. Women deserve to find the one they truley love and not to be sold like property.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that in this country girls are forced into marriage, makes it sound not so good. But the fact that the girls forced into marriage are about 8-9 years of age makes it awful. Think about the girls and how they just don't even think about getting married, all they think at that age its being kids. Parents of this girls sell them for money, resources, etc. So the girls don't have their parents trust. This girls have to marry older guys. Which makes it sick! This girls don't even know about love, giving birth, and being a wife. This girls who have kids are most likely to die in the process of giving birth. Its kids having kids! What kind of government would allow this?!
ReplyDeleteMarriage - of Else, an article published by the New York Times tells the horrifying accounts of young women in Afghanistan being forced into marriage sometimes as young as eight years old. Marriage is a commitment for life one that should not be made by parents looking to make an easy buck. These parents are robbing their precious children of a future. Tribal traditions have made it even harder for girls to find shelter if they choose to run away from these unhealthy situations. Aisha one of the more famous child brides was married at 12. When she attempted to escape her family returned her, following this the local clergy allowed her husband and his family to slice of her nose and ears. Is the kind of example Afghan families should set for their children? Marriage is a beautiful thing, within the right context.
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ReplyDeleteWhy are girls sold into "marriage", or should I say slavery? Women are treated like dirt and are considered unequal to men in Afghanistan. They are sold to repay debt, so basically they're just another mouth to feed and needs to be given away. If they try to escape that comes with a priçe, Injury or Death!